November is Tricky in Grief
Day 88: November in Grief I turned around this morning after making breakfast at a ridiculous hour due to daylight savings to find my...
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Nov 8, 20211 min read
In Grief, Long-Term Thinking Doesn't Make Sense
Day 87: In Grief, Long-Term Thinking Doesn’t Make Sense Around the second month of the pandemic, I began to have a new relationship ...
khatch73
Nov 7, 20212 min read
We Want our Suffering to Mean Something
Day 86: We want our suffering to mean something… There is a term in the grief world called “meaning making.” It used to bug me because...
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Nov 7, 20211 min read
We Were Born Knowing How to Grieve
Day 85: We were Born Knowing How to Grieve I would say that 75% of my work is being with people as they unlearn the gamut of...
khatch73
Nov 3, 20212 min read
Acute Grief--A Treacherous Landscape
Day 84: Acute Grief—A Treacherous Landscape Acute grief is the term that refers to the initial phase of bereavement. Acute grief is the...
khatch73
Nov 1, 20211 min read
What does "Progress" Mean in Grief?
Day 83: What Does “Progress” Mean in Grief? A couple days ago I mentioned the words that don’t seem right when it comes to grief. These...
khatch73
Nov 1, 20212 min read
Holidays can be Hard (Halloween, 2021)
Day 82: Holidays can be Hard Halloween kicks off what most of my clients find to be a nightmarish feeling of “how am I going to get...
khatch73
Oct 30, 20211 min read
We don’t grieve to “get better.” We grieve to feel differently.
Day 81: We don’t grieve to “get better.” We grieve to feel differently. What does “getting better” even mean in grief? What does...
khatch73
Oct 29, 20212 min read
Showing Up Can Be Scary
Day 80: Showing Up Can Be Scary Clients share the experience of their induction into the club of grievers they never wanted to be a...
khatch73
Oct 29, 20211 min read
“Just-Show-Up” Ideas
Day 79: “Just-Show-Up” Ideas In my day 49 post, “JUST SHOW UP,” I tried to offer a framework for how to THINK about how to show up. I...
khatch73
Oct 29, 20211 min read
The Yearning for One Last Moment
Day 78: The Yearning for One Last Moment I’m reading Katherine May’s book, Wintering, and enjoying her words which encourage the sitting...
khatch73
Oct 25, 20211 min read
Grief & Depression
Day 77: Grief & Depression Many years ago, I asked an acquaintance of mine who was open about living with major depression, and had...
khatch73
Oct 25, 20211 min read
Types of Pain in Grief
Day 76: Types of Pain in Grief This need not be an exhaustive list yet these are the ones I hear about the most. How does your grief pain...
khatch73
Oct 25, 20211 min read
Where and How does your Grief Show Up?
Day 75: Where and how does your grief show up? One potential maddening (or at least perplexing) question I ask folks is where does...
khatch73
Oct 25, 20212 min read
The Fear of the Pain not Feeling as Painful
Day 74: The Fear of the Pain Not Feeling as Painful Many times, I hear about a fear that most people aren’t speaking about out loud....
khatch73
Oct 25, 20212 min read
The Myopic Nature of Grief
Day 73: The Myopic Nature of Grief My first experience of grief was at age 4, after the death of my beloved cat, Elliot. Elliot went...
khatch73
Oct 25, 20211 min read
Tutorial on Tears
Day 72: Tears There are three different types of tears: emotional; reflex; and basal. Thus far, humans are the only known animal (with...
khatch73
Oct 18, 20211 min read
A Grief-Shattered Heart
Day 71: Anatomy of Grief-Shattered Heart In this work, I continue to be floored by how we can be at once shattered and whole, raw and...
khatch73
Oct 18, 20212 min read
"Acceptance" is a Tricky Word in Grief
Day 70: “Acceptance” in Grief Out in the world, the word “acceptance” can imply agreement, or consent, or even acknowledgement that...
khatch73
Oct 15, 20211 min read
We Miss in the Everyday Moments
Day 69: We miss people in the everyday moments We miss people in the everyday life moments, in the ordinary, not in the extraordinary. We...
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